If you feel you’ll finally be happy when you get the body of your dreams,  you may as well just think again!

Happiness won’t necessarily come when your body looks its best (a subjective term, anyways); it comes when you “feel” your best and that state of mind will have nothing to do with how your body looks nor what the scale says.

Some of the skinniest women I have known are the most unhappy with their lives in general. AND even when they reach their goal weight,  they are STILL unhappy with their bodies. Why? It’s quite simple- they have attached their source of happiness to something other than their bodies and they’ve yet to find it.

Many women who are unhappy with their weight will look at a beautiful woman and think they “have it made” and that life is so easy and are happy. But the honest truth for many of them is the total opposite. Women who are beautiful by society’s standards tend to be under constant criticism, constant guard against physical & emotional sharks, and are held to even more unrealistically higher standards of beauty than that of the average women. Ever notice how people are quick to find many small faults in a beautiful woman and condemn her for it, yet might find one minor fault in an average women (like her weight) and then forget about it or even find it cute? How is it that someone so beautiful could be so imperfect… still? How could such women like this be happy?

So the question now must be, are you going to equate your happiness to beauty? Or are you going to allow it to be only part of the equation?

I have an exercise for you….

Make a list of 10 things about your appearance that you are happy with.
Then make another list of 10 things in your life that do make you happy. (family, friends, pets, a running car, a beautiful home, etc). Now make a list of 10 things in your life that you normally do not notice, could possibly live without, but having it indeed makes life much much easier (example; hot running water, TV, a selection of shoes for different activities, a refrigerator, a door with a deadbolt). Now make a list of 10 things you would never notice, definitely could live without but life with it is a ‘tad’ sweeter (carpet, curtains, fresh coffee, filing cabinet for your paperwork, a desk, etc)

Now place the first somewhere that you can see them every day.

And every day make a new list of the other 3. Keep the old ones, and every week, go through all the lists. After a while, you will realize there is SO MUCH MORE to your life that makes you happy than your weight.

Love
Trainer Jo